The Gender Bandit Blog

Musings and more.

Prayers of the People for Pride Sunday

I had the privilege of leading the Prayers of the People at my church yesterday, which also coincided with the Pride parade in our city. I spent a lot of time working on my prayers for that day, and also got some really kind comments on my prayers, so I’ve...

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For the Sake of Love: Synod 2016

Anyone who follows this blog knows I’m a pretty verbose individual, so some of you will be happy to know that I intend this to be a short post. This weekend in Richmond Hill, Ontario (suburbia near Toronto), the Anglican Church is gathering to make a vote on the...

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Job-Hunting While Queer

Let me start by saying that yeah, I know, nobody likes looking for a job. I just get to have even more fun than most people. Dear Hiring Manager, My name is Eliot W———, and I am a 23-year-old student — My name is Eliot W———-...

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This one’s for my siblings.

I’ve been thinking all day about what I wanted to say today. In some ways, TDOR was easier. There’s a framework there. There’s statistics to fall back on. There are other stories, so much more important than my own, to share. There are loved ones to...

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A quick note on North Carolina

Hey beautiful people, I am still decompressing from conference mode and have several things in the works for you all that I’m very excited to share! But I’ve been seeing this phenomenon on Facebook and elsewhere in wake of a certain awful bill passing in...

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It’s Happening!?!

Readers! I wish I had something more interesting to say but I must confess that my brain has rather turned to soup today. I’m going! I’m actually going?! By a confluence of amazing forces I am going to the Trans History Conference in Victoria, BC. I leave...

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Moving Trans History Forward

Hey there, beautiful people. I’ve got a really unique opportunity just barely within my reach here, but I need some help to get there. I think if you’ve read anything on this blog at all, it’s pretty apparent that I am very passionate about trans...

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On “Fairness:” (Trans) Women in Sports

Hey there beautiful people. This past weekend I had a really neat opportunity. I was invited to be a panelist at a conference for student trustees of the Ontario Public School Boards–so, y’know, a bunch of teenagers from high schools all across the...

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Queer History I: The Fruit Machine

“It looked like something out of science fiction,” said one of the participants. “It didn’t look as if it had been built on earth. I’m not trying to be sensational about that. It was a whole bunch of girders that were small flanges to bolt the equipment together, and a screen in a box containing naughty pictures.”

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Shameless Self Promotion — and a teaser!

Hello beautiful people! This post is unfortunately not going to have much educational or entertaining content, but I’m hoping y’all will skim it anyway. Firstly, I do hope dearly that all my readers are having/had/will have lovely holidays, whatever you...

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Being Trans in Public I: On Name Changes

These two interactions happened maybe five minutes apart in the same institution and are nearly perfect examples of what to do and what not to do.  How Not To Do It: I’m a regular here and have a bit of rapport with the security folks at the front desk. This...

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Transgender Week of Remembrance: Kiesha Jenkins

Inset: Kiesha Jenkins in a profile picture from Facebook. Broader image: The street where Kiesha was beaten and shot to death October 6th, 2015. She was one of the people who wanted to change this world CONTENT WARNING: DESCRIPTION OF VIOLENCE She was twenty-two, an...

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Transgender Week of Remembrance: Ryley Courchene

This one breaks my heart a little extra. Ryley Courchene was 29 years old when she killed herself in late September, 2015.  She had studied at the Marvel Beauty School in Toronto, and her Facebook shows a love of unique nailwork that she did for friends. I wish I...

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Transgender Week of Remembrance: Blake Brockington

“Even though you go through some things, and you have some negative encounters in your life, anything is possible, you can do anything you set your heart to.” Blake Brockington was an incredible human being. In just eighteen years of life, he became an activist...

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Transgender Week of Remembrance: Sumaya Dalmar

“She used her life as an example of what it meant to be the fullest version of yourself, the best version of yourself.” — Lali Mohamed, friend …. What is clear from the turnout and outpouring of love at the memorial was that she was a family...

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What is Gender Made Of? Project Arrival!

Beautiful people, friends of stripes and spots and cosmic patterns! The personal project I alluded to in my most popular post is finally here! I don’t want to take away from the company’s incredible post, so I’ll just share my artist’s...

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Interlude: On Bad Days

Hi beautiful people. I wanted my next update to be finishing off that series! But I’m just not there today. and on the heels of Canada’s thankful holiday it still felt apt to share this message today, so here’s a short note from me to you. Today is a...

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Interlude: The Best Week (Ever?)

Hello beautiful cosmic creatures! I have been SUPER busy with school and work lately and for that I apologize, because this blog is important to me, and I’m disappointed that my updates have been slowing down. For those of you closely following my Beyond the...

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Beyond the Binary 2: Man Up!

What are little boys made of? What are little boys made of? Slime or snails and puppy-dogs’ tails That’s what little boys are made of Scene:                 Today, when I walk into Bridgehead, it’s a little cooler. This suits me...

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Beyond the Binary 1: Who Run the World? (Girls!)

(See my introduction to this series HERE–but if you can’t be bothered, just remember that I’ve never claimed this is true for everyone! Here are some observations from my twenty-odd years living as a girl. Your mileage may vary.). What are little...

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An introduction.

This blog is the genesis of a couple of things. About a month ago now, while I was getting about 2/3 of the colour in my halfsleeve done,  I had the really cool opportunity to meet Toni, of Toni vs Rooster. Toni is one of those rad people who has turned what she...

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